Divorced/Single/Separated Parents- How are you handling the holidays?
Will you be with your child for Christmas/Put your holiday here? Will the other parent see them? Anyone sharing the holiday together? Do you still see the ex inlaws? What’s your plan? Think there will be drama?
Most of you know I’ve been single since pregnancy after ending a 7 year relationship, but it is important for me to share the big events with her father, as I won’t give them up. So, I’ve invited Bella’s father to spend the night Christmas Eve (not with me, with the futon), so he can share the experiance when she wakes up Christmas morning and do the present thing. Then his family has invited all of us to their house for their big brunch. We’ll probably be there till afternoon when we have to go back to my place and start dinner, for assorted friends and family, he’ll join us for that too. My parents do Christmas Eve instead of Christmas day (they like to relax), so they aren’t getting left out. I expect it to be drama free as we’re fine, we just bicker occasionally now. Oo0oh except for his grandmother…She’ll give me grief but I think I can take her. lol.
Everyone else- What are you doing?
For a better 2009- I’m so sorry for your loss. She’s 18 months, so she grasps that Daddy doesn’t live here, he visits. I do understand the sleeping over thing could be an issue in the future hopefully she’ll think of it as a slumber party, anyhow we’ll jump off that bridge when we come to it.
Michelle- I totally understand. It’s all about what’s best for our babies. It hasn’t been easy to get to this point. He had to kick a major painkiller addiction (from a serious accident around the time we conceived) before I would give him such an honor. Not to mention the constant talks we have regarding what’s appropriate, how to treat me an her, what he can say (no swearing, no fighting), no drinking before coming to see us, etc. It’s been a TON of work to get here, I’m just hard-headed.
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My daughter lives with me, so yes – I will be there for her Christmas. Her dad will come over too to watch her open the presents from him. He will probably bring his brother who I cannot stand! And there will probably be some drama when my ex tries to talk our daughter into spending the night with him. … I will not allow it because I do not trust him or his brother.
We use to see my sister in law and her girls. Might get to say hi to them this year, but I don’t know. I don’t encourage too much contact between them and my daughter since most of the family is into drugs and stuff.
I am thinking of asking my ex if he wants to sleep on the couch so he can be there when our daughter wakes up.
I think it’s great that you will be able to share Christmas with your girl’s dad! I wish we could be like that, but like I said – his family is into drugs and stuff. And I don’t want to have anything to do with that.
hey i’m single and i will be celebrating with my two beautiful daughters and i know we will have so much fun, but happy holidays to you as well!!!!
well my mom and dad got devorsed when I was like 2 yrs old. Im 145 now. But when I can see my dad (in prision a lot) I would stay with my mom On Christmas eve. And on Cristmas morning I would go to my dads house and stay there on Christmas day. and they shouldnt be making a lot of drama around the kid. Thats just wrong. Hoped I helped.
My husband died when my child was two
I still see my in laws
I am spending christmas with them
I think your bella is very lucky to have two parents that are looking out for what best for her and not themselves
I am not sure about spending the night, you do not want her to get the wrong idea. It’s easy for children to do that
I think what you are doing is great
I don’t know about my parents, but for me, it’s depressing to think that my family has been divided and every holiday is like that now.
My daugher is fortunate enough to have 1 set of grandparents close to home. Despite the difficulties I share with her mom, we still made efforts for her to have a fruitful holiday. I chose not to be selfish and my little girl spent the Christmas holiday at her grandparents’ house with some of her cousins and her mom. She got to do the x-mas eve thing with her mother and family and I joined them on Christmas morning to enjoy the Santa thing. There’s absolutely no reason to deprive her of that. She’s 5 years old. Christmas is for the kids!
I’m glad that I got to spend some of the holiday with my daughter. Fortunately, Her grandparents are suppoertive and understanding. They dafinitely made me feel welcome and not alone. I owe them!