I give up, 32 year old single parent and tired of being SINGLE!?
I’m 32 years old and I have three children. I am presently an Executive at a Globally known company. I have my own house, car and love to travel. I love sharing and experiencing new things. But I’m tired of experiencing them alone, I’ve been single for the past three years and openly dating. Everyone I meet likes being single I don’t. I’m honest off the bat. I let them know I would like a relationship, I’m not looking to get married but would like to deal with the same person for a while.
I am seeing someone right now that had a young relationship when we met. He discontinued his relationship with her when we started "kicking it" but he still talks to her. But I see him maybe 4 to 5 times a week. I have alot of responsibility, he has none. We had a long conversation last night…let me rephrase that, he had a long conversation last night about how he loves being single and he has to "do him". I don’t want that anymore but I’ve given up. I need some words of encouragement…something to help me deal with this new society of speed loving, no more forevers, no one says forever they say for life and if we are talking prison terms isn’t that like 15 years? Lol…you know what I mean. I just need some advice on how to cope with the dilema of being single at my age and also attracting younger men. He is much younger than me which I think is the underlying issue. HELP!!!
I’m usually not this distraught with these matters but the holidays are coming up and I am starting to hate the way I live.
No, I’m not fat, I am actually very attractive and that’s why I attract younger men.
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You deserve better, never settle. I think you should try your best to meet Mr. Right.
Where there is a will there is a way, if you want love that bad then look for it. But don’t become obsessed with it, otherwise you will become desperate.
All I’m saying is take the time to notice how wonderful you have life going for you, and if you want to share it with that special someone then share it with someone who deserves it. You sound extremely independent and stable, I’d just hate to see you waste your time on someone who doesn’t love you enough yet there for the materialistic rewards.
There are no reasons for hassles in your life, don’t settle on someone because your just denying yourself. Keep looking, try different locations where you like to go. Just remember be happy.
Are you fat cause that might be why you can’t find anyone
Have you tried any online sites or looked in your local paper? I know that is sometimes strange, but online sites have worked for a lot of people and sometimes they have single parent groups in the local paper and often times you will meet another single parent looking for the same thing. The people are out there, it is just where to find them.
You can be my sugar mama. you don’t even have to buy me anything.
You want to meet someone good Don’t do it at bars. Try to find people in libraries or even the grocery store. young guys always hit a point when they want to go live their life free from everyone.
I can’t help if you said you gave up..
Younger men, myself included, tend to have their own dreams and ambitions. They don’t want to be told "This is it, and this will be it for the rest of your life" about anything. If someone were to tell me right now "The job you are in will be your job until the day you die", I’d probably take a running leap off a bridge.
When a guy sees a single woman looking for a committed relationship, it scares him. When he sees a single woman looking for a committed relationship with three children, it makes him sprint in the opposite direction.
RELAX and take your time. When you are looking for something you will never find it, when your not it will fall in your lap. Like a butterfly… if you try to catch it you can’t but if you sit patiently it will eventually land on your shoulder!
Both my fiance adn I had horrible relationships in the past that made us both give up on finding a true love. We ended up meeting and wasn’t looking for anything. Just friends… with benefits I guess you can say. Now we are madly in love and have our lives planned. He accepted my son and we are looking to move into a house in the next few months. Get married within a year, and have more kids!
U have your own money and you won’t seize the opportunity to jerk some guys around that ordinarily would do(jerk) U or your daughters around? Huh, did I miss something? Get on board, OL! Aint nothing changed ‘cept technology.
Try eharmony it is the online dating site and it matches you with guys who are looking for a relationship as well as only matches you with the same insterst you have
Hi sorry to hear about that with the holidays it does suck.. maybe you should try someone around your age might be better off for you..if you want to talk more about it you can join my facebook..email me if interested mcfarlanemania@yahoo.com
You don’t want immaturity which it sounds like his is. You need someone who is independent and has done things for themselves and wants to date someone. Focus on the smart guys, not the young guys. You’ll be fine hun. Also, don’t tell them off the bat that you want a long relationship with them. You can say you are looking for a relationship and that gets the point across. Saying "long" and focussing on them are two things you shouldn’t do, imo.
Answer mine if you can.
YOU ATRACT YOUNGER MEN YET YOU ON HERE MOANING THAT YOUR SINGLE =/ make your mind up woman
I think you and this guy that you are dating are at totally different points in your life. He cannot possibly understand what you are going through. If I were you, I would try to find someone that you are more compatible with. Try a dating site or something where you can find a guy who may also be a single parent or more responsibilities than your current guy.
girl i know what you are feeling right now …. i too am a single mother of a two year old , who has her own everything and i am a professiona l.and a student. i am 22 however i tend to date older men because i thought younger men are living that fast life style … but one thing i have noticed is that age doesnt make a man want to commit a relationship to many of these men is like you said a death sentence. i long a lasting realtionship that will develop into a marrage but how can you get that if men cannot commit to just being steady?…. although many times i feel like just giving up on dating, i look at many of my friends and see that they are married and have wonderful relationships… and i know that one day i will find someone who will except me and all of my excess bagage…. so i say to you dont give up… maybe its just timing or the type of men you are dealing with
it has it’s moments i know im a few years older then u also with 3 and i know what u mean i been there, all work not much play but the younger guy thing and the meaningless relationships for the moment and all that stuff and at the end of the day i am going to bed alone regardless of whom may have been there for the weekend……no one wants a commitment becasue there is no trust in the world anymore and it does suck for those of us who would like meaning! It’s all a game and i for onw am tired of the game left that behind in my 20′s. i am young looking and full of life and i share it mostly with my kids so i do know what u are saying but i can say don’t give up it’s out there.i enjoy my time alone too now but still not giving up and yes holidays do suck but we get thru because of the kids so ur going to be ok don’t be down on urself,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,it’s coming dammit! LOL
iam 33 and have been single about 5 yrs, so i feel where you are coming from. right now iam content because i know that in time that will come, i use to be impatient in the begining but now as i let go i feel like more will come my way as iam not searching anymore.
It sounds like your a great catch. Don’t let it get you down. Do you know that when your not looking is when he finds you. So, just enjoy the holidays with your children and family. Being single is not a dilemma. Being single is permanent according to your plan in life. You can do yourself a favor and listen to yourself. You say your attracting younger men. There are tons of younger men who would love to have you. You just happen to have one who is not ready for you. You don’t need to experience things alone. Go with friends. You never know who you’ll meet through your friends. And you never know who you’ll meet while traveling. Just don’t jump into anything too fast. Enjoy what you have. You don’t want Forever. But you want commitment. So, go out and find it, and have fun looking. Cheer up. Your worth waiting for.
I understand as I am a single parent myself tired of being alone and crave a man companionship. You should never hate the way you live, you earned and worked hard to get where you are today. You are a single parent of three children that alone deserves respect. As for the Guy it can definetly work even though he is younger maybe he is just at the point he wants his freedom not to mention he doesn’t have children and that may be part of the issue. Maybe he is intimidated by the power you have and you being set in your career. Men get nervous if they feel they are trapped but you as an older woman can have patience with him and guide him in the right direction. Do go out, Have fun Meet other People, Eventually you will meet the man you are meant to spend your life with yes its frustrating and lonely nights alone suck but it will work for you in the end Good Luck and bless your children.
I understand exactly how you are feeling. I went though the same thing.. where you are happy with your life and all the loved ones in it, but there is always an empty felling left inside you at the end of the day. I know what its like. I really thought my life was falling apart right in front of me, or just simply felt like everything was just passing me up. I went through the whole dating from this guy to another and they all seemed completely immature or simply wasn’t ready to settle down. When something goes wrong in your life you think that maybe I passed up that Mr. right because he came at some inopportune time in my life or I may just be blind. I definitely went through some harsh times, and when I least expected it. I walked past someone at my office I have never seen before, …and we connected. We locked eyes for the longest time, and he started conversations as soon as we could catch our breath. I have never thought I would ever feel that again. This connection was stronger with than anyone I had ever been with. He is my true soul mate. Together till this day. The right man will come in to your life too. Its not indefinite, I know this for sure. He will come when you least expect it and feel like you have given up all hope. Take care and I hope you find your companion very soon! Best wishes!
Ms. Executive, I think that you should end it with the dude you are talking to now because he does not want a relationship and you do. If he has made that clear to you don’t waste your time hoping he will change his mind.He probably thinking oh I got her she so open! Cut him off NOW !
STOP looking for a relationship and I bet you are the type to turn the good dudes down. Have a couple of friends first. That way you have options and if it turns to something more then you know its right and that you didn’t force it. If you look for a relationship as soon as you meet a dude then its going to seem like a perfect relationship to you because you want it SO bad. You may end up in a relationship with a jack a** and not even know it because you are acting desperate.
Plus do not tell dudes you want a relationship as soon as yall start taking because some dudes will take advantage of that and some will RUN… Y are you acting like you are an old lady or something. You need to chill. Enjoy the holidays with your kids and wait on a good dude. One that has the same success as you with a good job , car and own house that way you dont have to worry so much about him using you and you know he wants you for you.
-This advice is coming from a young female who is around young guys and has older brothers who know the game so I pay close attention.-
Okay now that I have given my advice Ms. Executive, are you hiring ! LOL – Always networking
that last response was so unneccessary. why would you ask someone if their faT? what an ass, honestly i think you should stop looking i belive in waiting and theyll come alone when you least expect it, cause thats how it always turns out. so hang with the kids take them places and maybe one day soon someone will just come when you least expect it
perhaps you need to find someone about your "corporate" level and see what comes along…
I don’t know what the answer is but I wouldn’t continue my relationship with this guy unless he is just there for a pillow talk what you are looking for doesn’t happen very often there are some great guys out there who love kids and it can be a nightmare for your kids if the wrong guy comes in the house they can either be mean to your kids or they can take sides with their kids or they could molest them so staying single is a great option I understand you like the family life and you are tired of being alone but stay safe and keep ahold of the great life you have one stupid mistake of being lonely could change your whole life for the worse you and your children could suffer for it. I have been there and done that
you are so right girl get rid of the boy toy find you a real man that will love you for you. be happy and god bless you remember sex is not love.
honestly i think by your question that your a bright smart person. but most important your a strong woman. single mothers are the most strongest people in this world. you guys have it so heard and i have the most respect for you. how you carry yourself and how you bust your ass off everyday to live for you and your kids. that is attractive. just focus on your happiness and children and in know things will start happening. good luck and im hear if you ever need to talk