What’s so difficult for parents to raise a child nowadays?
The statistics for single parenting, divorced parents, joint custody, POA (Power of Attorney), etc. is depressing; and, through personal experience, I can honestly that it’s just unreliable parents.
What do YOU think is the problem of today’s parents (assuming that you believe there is a problem)?
And if you have any other comment, pleas state it. I’m just curious and a little irritated right now. :]
Julie H – I get what you mean. But sometimes parents take things from discipline to rape, molestation, abuse. Rules are inevitable when it comes to defenseless children.
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Many of today’s parents don’t want to admit that they’re doing something wrong. I’ve seen a lot of stupid parents blaming me for things that their kids have down, such as them screaming at the top of their lungs at my old job. I was forced to smile and nod.
Another reason is the lack of parental involvement and the lack of physical exercise. Parents have petitioned to ban gym classes because the kids just stand around and do nothing at times. GYM!? Are you kidding me.
Americanizationalism is beyond bad right now. I’m saying that it’s horrible and will kick anyone’s @ss that says different to me without posting some evidence.
Parents today try too hard to be their children’s "friend" instead of being a parent.
their lazy all they do is yell at their kids not spend time with them and talk to them they just yell and scream and then when their child is being good they don’t give them praise they ignore them like their not even there,there are so many unfit parents out there its ridiculous
The biggest problem I see is a lot of parents coddling their children. There’s a lack of discipline, too much tv-watching, and overall trying to be their child’s friend and not a parent. And then they run to the doctor asking for an ADHD diagnosis because they think their kid is too wild. I can’t stand many parents today either. They act like they’re afraid to make their kids mad. When I grew up, I was afraid to make my parents mad, not the other way around.
The problem with parenting today is that the government is in the way. They are continually demanding what a parent can and cannot do with their own child. When I was a kid I got spanked and I turned out just fine. Now you can’t spank. It’s not the government’s business how you raise your child. Definitely, government mandates.
Men and women have different expectations about marriage that they didn’t have before.
I don’t think people are exposed to the correct way to discipline their kids.
And if the parents both grew up in dysfunctional households, that’s all they know, and then pass down that trait to their kids.
And then when the kids threaten the parents with Child Protective Services because they get grounded, and the court systems are more gunge-ho on foster care, it’s like the parents have lost their ground to raise the kid.
Parents take the easy way out. They punish only when it’s convenient for them. Like I see parents tell their kids to stop but when theird kids don’t stop the parents still sit there and watch them continue to mis behave. Then parents don’t teach them the right thing to do after they punished them for the wrong thing. It’s not common sense to a 6 yr old. Like the other day I was at the dentist there was a hyper little boy who kept getting up and playing soldiers. He’d get spanked and quit for a few minutes then get bored and do the same thing again. If the parents would have got on to him tell him to quit running around cuz it’s not the place and then sat him down in the little kid area with the puzzles and things and told him what he could do that was more appropriate. for the parents that are struggling and putting an effort are putting more effort into being friend then being parent. Alot of parents make life to easy for their children. They don’t teach them how to appreciate what they have. Kids are growing up thinking the need this new toy I can’t tell you how many temper tantrums in the toy aisle I’ve seen rewarded by getting that toy.
I think it is because people let other people raise their children. When they are babies you send them to day care for nine hours a day and spend two or three hours with them and expect them to see you as an authority figure. Then when they turn five you send them to school for nine hours a day, then to day care and spend an hour with them before they go to bed and expect to know who your children really are. And they are being taught some one elses values that my not be what you believe. But when you try to explain differently, how are they supposed to take you seriously? They don’t even know who you are and the media has taught them that you are just a dork. I think that if you want kids so freakin’ bad, why do you not make it so you can stay home with them??? I don’t have the newest stuff or the biggest and best stuff. But I have decent things and they are 100% paid for. I get to be home with my son every day. I have chosen to care what my son thinks of me more than what my neighbors and friends think of me! I chose a relationship with my child (hopefully more children soon) over a buch of status symbols and I am proud and happy with my choice!
Parents are lazy and do not parent at all but want to be their kid’s contemporary rather than their parent and take no responsibility for their discipline and when the kids get out of control they get pissed off when it is all their fault to begin with. We had some asshole teen boys going around setting fire to and beating to death homeless people and on their way into court one of the parents said boys will be boys so the parents are even more dysfunctional than the kids.
Raising & teaching children by example starts from the moment their born.They need to be fed,clean & emotionally nurtured,& then they start saying no,& do things their asked not to do.That’s where the problems aerise.Some parents don’t realize that they must choose their battles,but if they say something to their child,they must mean it,& follow throufg with the punishment,whether it be a privilege taken away or time out..Consistency is the most important thing,& lots of love & positive strokes when soumething is accomplished or attempted.Children are sponges that absorb more than we can imagine,from us & everything around them.
We went through a time that we felt like we had to build up the child’s self esteem. So we stopped correcting them, let them tell parents what they wanted to do, and let them run the show. Now, those kids are trying to raise kids and they have no idea what or how to exercise control. It’s very sad.
"Guiding The Behavior" is a wonderful college course all parents should have to take. It tell you how to deal with a four year old (which is basically the same as dealing with a 16 year old).
Parents need to take back the power: don’t try to be your child’s friend, employ positive guidance as opposed to discipline, and be sure to give your child five No’s for every one Yes (Mr. Rosemond’s article).
It can be done, but you have to start at the beginning. You can’t laugh at a child that says a bad word when he is 2, yet beat the crap out of him at 3. Consistency is the key.