How did you cope with being a single parent?
Beyond the physical, and financial adjustments—how did you deal with the mental and emotional side? Especially, if you never dreamed you would be a single parent (as I’m guessing no single parent does) I am 26 y/o and 15 weeks pregnant with my first child. I have already berated myself enough as to why I would allow myself to get into this type of situation, but it is surely too late for regrets. Without sounding too full of myself, I think the hardest part for me to accept—is that I just didn’t think this would happen to a women like me. I mean, I’m not some eager teenager who was trying to get pregnant to prove my womanhood…I just made a mistake with a guy who I thought I could trust. Now that he has made it clear, that he wants nothing to do with me or the child—I feel trapped and bamboozled. I always dreamed I would be married to a man who loved me and wanted me to have his children, not some guy who hates me because I got pregnant. I just feel really angry. I have my bachelors, have been working full-time for 5 years post-college and am a very attractive woman—-now I feel I am just a statistic. How did you cope with giving up the fairy-tale? And did you feel insulted that a man could abandon you while pregnant with his child?
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I am a single parent. I was in love with the father for 18 years, we never married and he was my first. I thought I would be with him forever in the beginning. When I got pregnant, he said she wasn’t his. I was hurt and I mean I thought I really was having a heart attack. The mental pain of him denying her, I can’t describe it. But you know I really wanted a baby I was educated and a hard worker and I had made my mind up that it would be me and her. So I guess before he actually left me I have always planned to have a child and if he was in her life good if not oh well, because I know she is mine and she is beautiful and I did it by myself. She love me and he is feeling bad for missing out on her life now. She is 22 and she models and sings. She is dating a rookie pro ball player. So you can do it. Be strong and good luck to you.
my dad brought me and my 3 siblings all up by himself. he quit his high earning job for something nearer to home so he could look after us all, even though my brother brian was only 6 months old and my oldest brother owen was only 6 at the time. u need to sort out ur priorities, trust ur close friends, plan ahead, and think of whats best for ur kids. thats what he did and its all good now, and he has been awesome.
Im 36 weeks and in the same situation before I got pregnant I was working at a great job, nice car own house, everything. So i understand what you mean by "a woman like you". It’s ok to be proud of yourself and accomplishments. My baby’s father will not be around to help at all he’ll be deployed for 15 months (but with the way he acts towards me I don’t think he’d be around his baby even if he was staying in the states) anyways, at that point in my pregnancy i felt the same way like HTF did this happen to ME? I was doin so good for myself now this? But with my experience that feeling wore off as I got further along and my belly got bigger and this all got more real….I’m not the most religious person in the world but I do believe that everything happens for a reason and God doesn’t mistakes. If someone is meant to be here, God is gonna get them here. Realize what an accomplishment you’ve already made by keeping your baby. I’m at the point where I could care less if he comes around or not now because i have decided that anything he does will be extra because just like i was taking good care of myself I’m bout to do 100% more for my son. And as far as the fairy tale goes…you dint have to give it up just alter it! Hope i gave u a little hope:) It’ll get better, dint sit around and beat yourself up over what coulda been, and what happened—get back out there and take care of yours—now you got somebody who Needs you!
That’s a weird question since I’m a 27 year old man. I never had to cope with that. Geez.
I think we should be tough on single parents but at the same time your story makes me sympathetic. Almost every girl out there is taught to not get pregnant until after marriage or else they might end up a single parent. Yet 50-75% of newborns nowadays are being born to single parent mothers each year. If you choose to go through with this or not, realize you weren’t trapped, but it’s a choice you’ve made. Once you resolve to do what is best, live up to it and don’t depend or wait on anyone else to help you live up to your decision.