Spinning of Amommy’s ? 
I don’t consider myself a ‘single’ mom, because I live with my daughters dad and we share all parent duties. However, he spends the holidays with his family, and I spend them with mine.
Since my girls are a bit older, they choose who they want to spend the day with, of course they choose their dad over me. Except this Easter, he works, so they’re all mine
For birthdays, we have 1 party and both families are free to come.
What about you guys?
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I am 40 years old and have been divorced twice. For the past 2 years, I have been dating a man and we are serious; however, we are taking it one day at a time and not planning an engagement or marriage yet. My Mom refuses to meet him because she says "I need to get to know myself and let God bring the right man into my life". I married at 19 to get away from her controlling and dominant ways. I left him at the age of 25, taking my two children with me. I remarried again at the age of 30, marrying a man who was not family-oriented so of course I was miserable and the children were neglected my him. Trust me…I have come to understand that I rushed into both of those marriages, running from either my Mother and then from not wanting to be a single parent. I have admitted that and I have gotten to know myself. The holidays are here and the man I am dating would love to meet my parents. My mother has said "no" and says it has nothing to do with him. She told me she doe not want to see me hurt again and reminded me again that I am twice divorced. My "honey" is very hurt by this because he feels they are pre-judging him and making him pay for my past mistakes. I have met all of his family, attended family reunions and spend every other weekend with him and his daughter. He is very good to my young adult kids (18 and 19) and we have helped each other in soooo many ways. He is literally my very best friend and I love him dearly. My mother wants me to spend Christmas Day with her and my Dad and I do want to….along with my "honey". It was so heartbreaking for me to tell him he is not welcomed on Christmas Day and I saw the hurt on his face and later he expressed this hurt to me. (This is the second year that I have had to tell him he is not invited to the family holiday dinner). I am torn, losing sleep and very upset with my Mom. At this point, I do not even want to spend the day with her because I feel she is very judgemental of me. She keeps bringing up the fact that I am twice divorced (she has only divorced once). We are Christians; however, I believe she is taking Christianity to the extreme by judging me and my life and not giving the guy I am dating a chance. I own my own home, have a decent job, no drugs, no criminal activity and I have never disrespected my parents. My crime in their eyes is the fact that I am "twice divorced".
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I am a single dad. When I was in to talk to my sons teacher yesterday, and explain why he would not be in school on Friday, she asked me about Mother’s day. She knows I’m a single dad, and wanted to know if I wanted my son to make a Father’s day card instead when they do their card project this week. I told her It was up to him. She also said that some of the kids, made Mothers Day cards, for their dads when there was mom in the household. I was a bit shocked, but it does make sense. So what is everyone else’s thoughts about it? Do any single Dads out there get mother’s day cards from their kids? How about single Moms that get father’s day cards? My son moved in last year just before father’s day. He made me a cute card out of paper and crayons, and I still have it. Also how many of the single parents take the kids out card shopping? Or do you send them with a friend or family member? I did that for Xmas gifts, but that’s it. Any input would be great! Thanks
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We went on holiday for a week and my son (19 mos) had his routine totally messed up. I’m not strict with it, he generally goes to bed at 7pm but it can be anything as late as 8.30pm occasionally. But on holiday it went to after midnight, he just wouldn’t sleep any earlier and I relaxed a bit as I wanted him to enjoy himself too and didn’t want to leave him crying in an unfamiliar room. But now I really do need to get him back to something like he was before – I work in the evenings (studying a degree from home, and some evenings I do bar work), and I can’t lose my degree or my job for my son’s sake, so I might have to be cruel to be kind. Last night I had work and I ended up having to let him cry himself to sleep with me listening through the monitor as I was an hour and a half late and would have lost my job if I’d been much later as they were understaffed. I felt awful but he was ok. (By the way I’m a single parent so nobody to share the workload – my dad is here with him when I go to work but only on the condition that he’s asleep and he doesn’t need to do anything). He fell asleep much quicker than I thought he would. Now, one side of me is telling me I should do that every night until he’s back to normal, because if I keep him up as late as he wants to be I’m just going to get nowhere and the quicker I nip it in the bud the easier it’ll be for him. But I feel dreadful. Does anybody have any advice? How did you solve the problem after holidays?
And please don’t give me the whole "You should care more about your child than getting personal time" crap. I do. Just understand that if I lose my degree, I can’t give my son a good future, and if I lose my job, I can’t support him right now.
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I have a 16month old son who I am raising alone with the help of my parents due to abandonment by the father. For his own "up-bringing" reasons, age, and immaturity cannot handle this task. I have always felt an immense amount of pain knowing someday my son will ask for him, and i in return have nothing prepared to say. Anyway, i’m in nursing school and volunteered at an elementary clinic. As i looked through the contacts, i was surprised to see so many children with only the mother as contact, and sometimes even only a father. Half of these children lived in a single home, or with a step father, whom they now call dad. I was expecting to see depressed, sad, children. How affected are children by not having a father or mother ? Or dealing with a step-parent. I myself am fortunate to have both, but now i want to know what’s it like for those who were not raised with a father or mother. Did it make you stronger? insecure? How did your mother/father explain this to you as a child. thanks. i have been stressing so much and been depressed over this for so long, sometimes even blaming myself. But now i see that i am not alone!
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