I’ve been with my boyfriend.. now fiance.. for 4 years. He’s known my daughter (which is not his) since she was 8 months old. I told him from day one if he’s going to be with me, he’s going to be there for her too. So, it’s 4 years later.. she’s 4. We had a small disagreement because my daughter emptied the lotion all over her room. i said no t.v. took her tv for the weekend. He wanted it to be the whole week. He would go as far as teasing her. we got icecream and didn’t buy her any because she was a bad girl, however he went as far as to taunt her. So I let her have a bite of mine.
Is that so wrong? He told me not to ask for his help anymore with disciplining her because of that. Said I was soft. I mean…. what would you say or do? I have put a lot aside when it comes to her. He doesn’t help with daycare payments, he doesn’t give her a bath, he barely buys her the food that she likes.. like he just doing what he has to do for her and nothing extra.
He buys her clothes every now and then and of course he participates in holidays with her. Should I been concerned? I mean, I feel like a single parent with a spouse at this point.
I saw some comments about my daughters biological dad and all that. He hasn’t seen her since she was born! He has a child support order. When it was only 65/month he paid nothing now it’s over 200.00/month and he barely pays half. daycare is 160.00/month! He is no where in her life and probably never will be.
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