marriage if there are children involved? I read all of these statistics about how children in single parent households are far more likely to become drop-outs, criminals, et cetera. Do you think it was the divorce/physical separation or the emotional turmoil between the parents that effected these children the most? Would things change if these parents sacrificed their feelings and stayed together "for the children" or would they get even worse?
http://www.childrensjustice.org/fatherlessness2.htm
I’m a bit on the fence about this. I don’t think that people these days take marriage as seriously as they should/sacrifice enough to keep it alive. I also understand however that people can change/make mistakes and staying in a loveless marriage may only prolong the hardships for everyone.
Would you stay in an unhappy marriage if you knew your child was better off with both parents in the house?
They aren’t perfect statistics because there is a difference between a father never being there for his children and a father who sees them during visitation/has raised them. I do however think that the statistics point to a childhood need for a father. And I also think that few would argue that a live-in father can get more time with his children than one who visits.
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