Maybe your relationship or your marriage is almost hitting rock bottom, and you’re debating if you should call it quits or muster the strength to fix it and save the relationship. Honestly, it could be a hard decision when it has come down to thinking about quitting your relationship. If you’re faced with this kind of situation, you should definitely consider things before making your last decision.

What are you expecting from your relationship and what are the things that are missing? Now, try and see if you can provide answers to the following questions. Your sincere answers to them will provide clues on what your final decision should be.

1. Does your partner flare up at the slightest things and do most discussions between you end up in squabbles? 2. Does the thought of your partner make your heart sick and weary? In essence, do you have the feeling of a looming fight at the thought of your partner’s homecoming or visit rather than anticipating it with joy? 3. Do you wish you never entered into the relationship in the first place and wished you were with someone rather than your partner? 4. Is there a dent in the respect you have for your partner? Do you still hold him/her in high esteem or has your love for each other completely died out? 5. Has there been any case of physical abuse and if so, how frequently? 6. Do you suspect your partner is cheating on you? Have you attempted a peaceful discussion about this issue of infidelity and it ended up in a fight? 7. Is there a serious communication gap between you? What steps have you taken to bridge this gap? 8. How is your sexual relationship with your partner? Is it still fun or have things gone so sour that you no longer enjoy sex, but see it as a mere ritual?

If you have gone through all those questions and most of your answers are yes, then you need to think twice, examine all the circumstances and determine if you can still handle the relationship or if you simply want to quit in order of peace and freedom. If you still have some hope somewhere in your heart that the relationship can work well again, don’t hesitate to look for help. One of the best steps is to seek proper counsel and guidance from a marriage or relationship expert.

It has always been said that communication is the best way to resolve issues. So before you look for help, see if you can talk things over with your partner and devise new and better ways to present your issues, no matter how furious you are. Open a conversation and share your ideas, issues with your partner.

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My daughter is mid 20′s. I raised her and my son as a single parents, I was in an accident and partially disabled when they were 8 and 9, their father my husband and I separated and he moved in with his mother. He never paid a cent in child support and started drinking and became an alcoholic, and recreational drug user. The police removed him from our home because he was abusing me and the children which is how the separation came about. He was charged with assaulting his son and placed on probation for 2 years.

I never prevented him from seeing the children, never prevented or discouraged them from phoning him etc. Most of the time he didnt show up to visit them because he was drunk or forgot or didnt care. I always told the kids he loved them and that getting a divorce didnt mean divorcing the kids. I never told them he was drunk or didnt care to visit them I told them he had been called into work.

Now he is back in their lives, apparently sober and he has poisoned their minds against me, saying I wouldnt let him see them, saying I was the one who was an alcoholic and abused them – telling them he did pay child support and I spent it all on alcohol and drugs.

Everyday as a single disabled parent was a struggle, but I didnt see it as a sacrifise, I love my kids with all my heart and would do anything I could for them. As my health and disability has worsened I have become deeper and deeper in financial straits. I have never asked my kids for money or help, but I did end up living in my car for awhile until I could find a place I could afford. Neither suggested I could live with them. They are both in their 20′s now.

My exe, their father buys them expensive presents, takes them on holidays, and they act as if he is some kind of hero. I have never and would never hurt my kids, I dont drink, never have. Dont do drugs, never would.

I have grandsons I never see, I never saw the youngest until he was 8 months old and now I am not "allowed" to see him because of this alleged alcohol drug problem and the stories about me abusing the kids.

I have offered to show them the court papers, medical reports and letters from my Dr saying I DONT drink or do drugs, their medical histories, papers from Child Services saying he was investigated for child abuse and charged, and the police reports.

They just say they dont want to see them — what can I do? I buy them birthday presents, and xmas presents and leave them in their mailboxes, presents for my grandsons and I have left letters begging them to talk to me, go for family counseling with me, anything !

My heart is broken, my family was my life, my reason for going on after my accident, my joy, my heart, my soul – I loved my kids! I loved spending time with them, I encouraged them and supported them and told them everyday how much they were loved and valued and wanted.

I never ever dreamed I would end up alone and an outcast from my family. I havent spoken to my son in 16 months now. My oldest grandson was in my life until the childrens father returned, he is 10 yrs old and not allowed to speak to me now. He told me once I was the "fun grandma" and we did have so much fun together —

Does anyone have an ideas? The last time I left a letter in my daughters malbox she phoned the police and said I was harssing her. My exe, their father phoned me at 3 AM and said if you really do love your kids like you say you do the best and kindest thing you can do for them is kill yourself and get the f*** out of their lives forever.

I just had a mini stroke and I have a feeling I wont live much longer, and honestly I really dont want to anyhow if I cant see my kids and grandchildren, I just dont know what to do anymore …
I was not a perfect mother and I dont claim to have been, no one is perfect. I was in a lot of pain a lot of the time. There were a lot of things my kids had to do without, but I never harmed them, abused them etc
I never said a word against their father because I wanted them to feel they had a father who loved them. As they got older and wiser and insisted on answers I told them even adults can make choices that dont seem to make sense but he is your father, he loves you even though right now he is having a hard time showing it but he does love you, dont ever doubt that and some day he will realize how important you are but for now all you can do it wait for that to happen.

I was a Family and Youth Counselor and I know how critical it is for children to feel their parents love them and care about them. How much they need that security in their lives so they can have productive lives themselves and love themselves.

I have prayed and prayed that God will enter their hearts – I just want so badly to see my little grandson again and hold him. He is so amazing. I want to talk to my older grandson and laugh with him again and tell him how much I love him.
Some of you think there has to be something I am not saying, you would think so wouldnt you? Because it just doesnt make sense that this would happen, but there is nothing I assure you. My friends dont understand why this is happening, or others who know me and who I am, no one can understand WHY the kids are letting their father influence them like this.
It would actually be easier if there WAS something more then I could apologize or do whatever was needed to "make ammends"

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As the holiday time approaches,I wanted to know if there is anyone out there who would like to help out a family in need? I am a recently widowed single parent of 3 young girls. I am in dire need financially and about to lose our home> I know that the holidays are not meant to be about materialistic things but I just want to give my girls a nice Christmas after recently losing their father in a car accident, they could use something to make them smile. If anyone could help us out please e-mail me at emmiegsmom@yahoo.com Thank you to anyone out there who has it in their heart to help out some children this holiday season.

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I lost my mom at 25. She got sick with cancer July 30th we found out, and she died sept 23rd…..My mom was a wonderful woman. She made sure my brother and I had a great childhood and breakfast, lunch and dinner was always on the table. My parents didn’t make my bro and i do chores or anything like that….we were alloud being kids. There are mothers out there who don’t want their kids or they don’t cook no home made meals…..it just breaks my heart the way life really is cause I was so sheltered I guess. christmas at our house was great my mom would decorate every single year for all holidays…….I miss my mom I’d do anything to have her back specially this time of year. I’m sure if u lost a parent u feel the same way…..but somehow we just keep truckin along.
sorry e1 just missin my mom!

I divorced from my ex husband when my children were 3 and 1. He immediately got together with the woman he was cheating on me with and after a long (over 1 year) custody battle, he ended up winning custody. Not only because he told a ton of lies in court, but because he now had a two parent household and I had a single parent household.

My kids are now 10 and 12. I have every other weekend visitation and holidays. Lately they’ve been saying they don’t want to come see me, because they want to play with their friends and do all the fun things their dad and step mom tell them they missed out on when they’re with me. I try as hard as I can to make their time fun with me, but since I only have them 4 days a month, our time is obviously limited.

How do you handle it when your child tells you they don’t want to see you? I love my children with all my heart and I’m torn-do I make them stay because I love them and want to see them any time I can, or do I let them go?
I should point out- yes, there are lies told by the other side. I honestly don’t believe it’s from ym ex, but from the step mother. The kids have told me straight out that she’s said I didn’t have custody ebcause I didn’t want them, that SHE carried them in her stomach, etc. The oldest looks a lot like me and the step mom tries everything she can to change her appearance- cuts her hair, colors it blonde (her color) etc. She is also letting them get away with murder so I look like the "mean one" if I have rules. They also make a lot more money than I do, so I can’t buy boats and expensive cars and costly clothes. I don’t make pennies, but they’re spoiled over there and i can’t compete financially. Because they are with me only every other weekend, they don’t have those close friendships established with a lot of kids at my place. I’ve asked them if they wanted to invite any of their other friends over but they say no, I think they are embarrassed, most their friends don’t know I exist.
I do go out of my way every time I have them to ensure we do at least one fun activity- go to the movies, go to golfland, go bowling, play board games, baking, shopping, etc etc.

Also, they do have their own rooms with 25" tv’s, cd’s, movies, games, toys, video game systems, etc. I didn’t want it to seem like they are visitors in my home, even though it’s only every other weekend. I have repeatedly told them how my door is always and will always be open for them at any time.