I am 23 years old, had sex out of wedlock w/ my boyfriend of 4 months. I was on the pill but was taking antibiotics that I had no idea hinder the pill and got pregnant. My boyfriend didn’t love me and left. One minute I feel like I would die for this child and do everything to take care of it. I have a 25K a year job, two and a half years college experience and a very supportive family. I feel that I could emotionally and financially be there for this child even if its on my own.

Then, the next minute the idea of me being a single parent comes crashing down on me. I fear loneliness, and I worry if I’m strong enough for this situation. After all I was not prepared for this. But I also don’t know if I could handle the emotional toll of an adoption. I am literally on a rollercoaster here. I am still in touch w/ my ex’s parents who are devout Christians and believe that it’s in the childs best interest to be in a two parent home w/ parents who are ready.
I just hate the discrimination I am getting from his family now that I am on my own with this. I understand that two parents usually are better than one, but I don’t think statistics mean Sh_t when it comes to the individual. Why am I being pulled in so many directions? Is this a sign I am not ready or is this normal? I would LOVE to hear from mothers who gave up their child for adoption and see what they have to say.
Thank you for your belief in me "justnuissance" but I said adoption not abortion. I am pro life.

I am 24 years old male. i have an achieved career in the field of 3D visual effects, profession and everything. I had a reason to live so far, whcih would be, achieving my goal in my profession and then take care of my parents by supporting them. My parents had forgotten how much poor we were, the days we were eating once a day, whcih is before i got the job and before i supported them or before I left my country. Now I am in a different country, working, but they dont care ab out me or anything, but the money i send them, I wonder if they even miss me. They call me every month around the date i send them money and thats it.

I am missing everything and being a loner. I cant beleive how lonley I am. The one girl I met and liked her, she is white. I met her in the gym, she talked, smiled, was kind, interesting, matured etc I started to like her. After a long time, I thought of telling her how I felt. But I was so nervous to approach her, but I gathered all my courages and asked her out. Now, the one girl I liked wont talk to me anymore. It is embarrasing and humiliating that she stopped talking to me for the reason I liked her very much and wanted to hang out with her, she is avoiding me in my face. I sometimes wonder what is wrong with me, I am not a bad person, I never disrespect anyone, I respect everyone for who they are…Why am I deserving this.

I am wondering what am I doing now in my life. I got everything, but I got nothing. Whom am I even living my life for? I cant get over that she rejected me. Is it because I am not white? or probably because I am Indian? she felt insulted that i wanted to go out with her, or maybe i am assuming it. I cant forget the way her face reacted when I told her how much I like her. I am very hurt.
I didnt walk upto her and tell her something like "I love you" I just asked her if she wanted to go out with me. I try to be honest about what I feel. I dont fake my emotions. I asked her if she likes to go out with me as I like her and find her interesting. I wasnt trying to get into her pants or anything…

She could have told me anything like she cant. I

In one of the replies from someone, he asked me if I smell good. I dont know why people think Indians are nasty. I am a neat freak myself, I regularly workout. I am not insecure. About the looks, I dont think I dress up like a slob. I look exactly like this guy from Hannah Montana, her dad..with the same hairstyle, bigger and younger than him, but an Indian version of him.
I was nervous to approach her because I really liked her and what if she says no. There are a lot of things about her which I found very very cute, like I can just watch her speak all day. I hvnt felt the same with many other girls.
She even said she is single last month. Anyways, I tried to talk to her again, but she pretends like I am invisible. embarrassing

what should it be? I apologize for finding you interesting and cute or for telling you Id be happy if you’d like to go out for a coffee or lunch?

Thanks a lot for the replies guys. It made me feel better.

We went on holiday for a week and my son (19 mos) had his routine totally messed up. I’m not strict with it, he generally goes to bed at 7pm but it can be anything as late as 8.30pm occasionally. But on holiday it went to after midnight, he just wouldn’t sleep any earlier and I relaxed a bit as I wanted him to enjoy himself too and didn’t want to leave him crying in an unfamiliar room. But now I really do need to get him back to something like he was before – I work in the evenings (studying a degree from home, and some evenings I do bar work), and I can’t lose my degree or my job for my son’s sake, so I might have to be cruel to be kind. Last night I had work and I ended up having to let him cry himself to sleep with me listening through the monitor as I was an hour and a half late and would have lost my job if I’d been much later as they were understaffed. I felt awful but he was ok. (By the way I’m a single parent so nobody to share the workload – my dad is here with him when I go to work but only on the condition that he’s asleep and he doesn’t need to do anything). He fell asleep much quicker than I thought he would. Now, one side of me is telling me I should do that every night until he’s back to normal, because if I keep him up as late as he wants to be I’m just going to get nowhere and the quicker I nip it in the bud the easier it’ll be for him. But I feel dreadful. Does anybody have any advice? How did you solve the problem after holidays?

And please don’t give me the whole "You should care more about your child than getting personal time" crap. I do. Just understand that if I lose my degree, I can’t give my son a good future, and if I lose my job, I can’t support him right now.

I am 16 years old and I have no job currently but I am getting one this week… it is half way through summer holidays and at first I was just going to drive my dads car cause insurance alone for me is 3800$ year because my dad is a single parent. But going into grade 11 I want to drive a car and I seen a beater for about 500$ volkswagen still running good, but Is it true that you need to put down a quarter or half of the insurance to start off? What do you think I should do about any of this ….. thanks

this woman who lives near me has 2 kids and claims benefits as a single parent yet she has her boyfriend living with her who works full time.
she pays no rent or council tax and also has a cash in hand ironing job.
my partner and i have young kids and are managing on one wage paying all our bills and generally doing the right thing,
while shes raking it in going on holidays and driving round in a posh car!
would you shop her if you were me or just let her get on with it?
it just seems so unfair