that they should wait until they are in a stable marriage before getting pregnant?
Raising children is not like buying a dolly at the store, its a wonderful and tough job at the same time. I could not imagine trying to raise my kids without the support and help of my amazing husband. Plus kids need a mother and a father. Some people have things happen that are out of their control and end up a single parent, but why are so many of these girls so willing to be a single mom, regardless of the consequences and quite frankly what statistics show about single motherhood?
*** Car. Baby, I think you and I are on the same page. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean that you should reproduce either… the key is STABLE marriage.
And sorry to the answerer’s that say a "stable" relationship is the same as married, its not. A devorce is expensive and time consuming and sometimes it makes you seek other options like counseling before you resort to devorce. When you are not married you can walk away at any given moment.

What is the benefit of a man getting married in the United States? Unless he wants kids, I see none.

The divorce laws are completely slanted toward women and the child support laws are borderline unconstitutional. American women these days no longer want to do any of the household chores that future generation household wives used to take on. If both parties are going to work outside of the household, then I agree that the women should not have the sole responsibility of the household chores. But if that is the case, why get married? A man is no longer getting the emotional support and the domestic benefits that used to come with marriage. Therefore married men are no longer healthier than their single counterparts (and this was proven in a Michigan State University study over a 30 year period). The study points to lack of family prepared dinners for when the husband arrives and the fact that single men are more likely to eat better/stay in shape in order to attract a member of the opposite sex.

American women generally gain weight, don’t keep themselves up, stop sexually satisfying their husbands, etc… After becoming married because they are now comfortable in their situation and know if the man would leave, they’d be entitled to 50% of everything (if not more) plus spousal support. It is funny, as I am a frequent member of the gym, to see how many overweight divorcees or soon-to-be divorcees start shedding the pounds after their husbands have decided to leave them in order to attract a new man. Well maybe if you would have kept yourself up and "put out" for your husband, he wouldn’t have left you.

Now, with that said, I’m not opposed to staying in a long-term monogamist relationship with a woman (for those that say you should because you LOVE someone, well if you LOVE someone there is no reason that you can’t stay with them). I just don’t see any reason to sign legal documents where there are no advantages for me (a man) UNLESS the man wants children (which I don’t). I do agree that children should be products of a marriage where it is a more stable environment for them and statistics show that they grow/mature better than their counterparts that are part of a single parent household (studies say these children are more likely to suffer from psychological issues, substance abuse, drug abuse, commit crimes as juveniles/adults, and become teenage parents).

Is there any reason that a man in the United States should get married in the 21st century?
just another girl – Thank you, I forgot to add my last, and most important statistic. More marriages fail today than succeed. The divorce rate is over 50% in this country. Do you think everyone entering those marriages thought they were going to fail?

It is stupid and plain IGNORANT not to look at the risks you take with any action, especially a major life decision like marriage. Unlike most idiot who let life hit then like a tidal wave, I plan out my life. Considering everything I’ve worked for, and everything I have to lose, why get married when the statistics show that my marriage has a better chance of failing than succeeding in this country.

As a man, I can get everything I’d want out of marriage without getting married (sex, a life long partner, is there anything else?). So what do I have to gain as the question asks?
So Monica… You are an abusive bitch huh? Must have been raised by a single mother.

And to the single mothers… Just because it worked out for you, doesn’t mean that it is a good idea. Statistics show it is worse off for children, and boys need fathers. No wonder there are so many p*ssified men in this country… All raised by man-hating b*tches who teach them to be homotional and sit when they pee. Maybe before having children you should think about THEIR needs, rather than what works for YOU.

Research on why atheists choose to live that lifestyle

Studies show Atheists are hurting deep inside. Many have had dark troubled pasts and questionable youths. 4/5 atheists are found to have been "delinquents" or "problem childs" when in grammar school by teachers and parents.

it is a proven fact that many have had truamatic experiences in their love live and at school (dating, bullying, embarassment)..in fact 88% of atheists surveyed in a 2009 scientific study ADMITTED to feeling sad at times.

more statistics:

90% of atheists have admitted to heavy drug usage and abuse in college…if they went…the other 10% did not go

5% of them feel happy

98% of a atheist survey said they have fears of commitment and marriage..this is why some choose to be single

I WAS SHOCKED TO SEE THESE STATISTICS…IT PUTS SO MUCH IN PERSPECTIVE

WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THESE STATS…..DO YOU UNDERSTAND NOW WHY YOU FEEL THE WAY YOU DO?
These statistics come from the SAME source that atheists get theses facts:

Jesus is based on Mithra
He may not have existed
The idea of the Son of God is based on the "sun of god"
the bible was written by leaders who wanted to control the masses

don’t you understand
These "statistics" are satirical to make a point…to show how anyone can just say anything and make it sound truthful—atheists do this all the time (see claims above in first additional details)–making false claims delivered as factual (ever seen Zeitgeist?)

so what do you think of these statistics–shouldn’t you feel that way about the atheist claims mentioned above?

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This question is somewhat aimed at older people. What creates a lifelong fulfillment, children or love? I am married to a great man, who is much older and done having children [vasectomy]. The marriage is wonderful and the love is strong, but I am left wondering if I was meant to have children of my own. This is a huge fork in the road in my life. In retrospect, what meant more to you?

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marriage if there are children involved? I read all of these statistics about how children in single parent households are far more likely to become drop-outs, criminals, et cetera. Do you think it was the divorce/physical separation or the emotional turmoil between the parents that effected these children the most? Would things change if these parents sacrificed their feelings and stayed together "for the children" or would they get even worse?

http://www.childrensjustice.org/fatherlessness2.htm

I’m a bit on the fence about this. I don’t think that people these days take marriage as seriously as they should/sacrifice enough to keep it alive. I also understand however that people can change/make mistakes and staying in a loveless marriage may only prolong the hardships for everyone.
Would you stay in an unhappy marriage if you knew your child was better off with both parents in the house?
They aren’t perfect statistics because there is a difference between a father never being there for his children and a father who sees them during visitation/has raised them. I do however think that the statistics point to a childhood need for a father. And I also think that few would argue that a live-in father can get more time with his children than one who visits.
I noticed this section has a thing for the thumbs down so I gave everyone a standard thumb up for answering

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