I am not going to head to an adoption agency right this moment to go through the adoption process. I just want to do my research so that in a few years when I do want to go, I won’t find any huge surprises for me. I want be a good person and a good father, even if I wasn’t born ‘normal’ and probably won’t be getting married because of it. I still do want children though. So i’ve gotten an adoption book called The Adoption Answer Book, and I am waiting for the book Adoption on your Own, which seems to be the all guidance on single parent adoptions. I just don’t know what else I should be doing to prepare for possible or almost definate hardships, since it will probably be the hardest to adopt for someone like me. Any ideas? Thanks for any and all help.

Erin

Why do most adoption agency’s discriminate couples with significant age differences (15-25 years) but allow single parent adoptions? Wouldn’t it make more sense for a child to grow up in a family with two loving parents instead of one?
Believe me i understand adoption isn’t a "right", but it seems to be a privilege only for your white, upper class 35 year old couple.
I never once said i was planning to adopt….no desire after research.
Gershom — I agree 100% that if it is between a single biological mother or a non bio couple that the child should be with the bio parent…no questions asked!

Why do most adoption agency’s discreminate couples with significant age differences (15-25 years) but allow single parent adoptions?
I’m sorry, discriminate which means to make a distinction in favor of or against a person or thing on the basis of the group, class, or category to which the person or thing belongs rather than according to actual merit; show partiality:

like if you prayed to God for a child and someone comes up to you and wants you raise her child, would that be God’s will? i know he works in mysterious ways.

I am a U.S. citizen looking into foreign adoption.