Why is it that a single mother is a victim, while a single father is not? As a single father (my fiancee was killed by a drunk driver when our daughter was 2, she is now 4) I have filed many appeals in court because of lack of support from the government and have won, but I still am shocked how often people fail to care about the situations many men are in. It seems as though single mothers get extra benefits beyond what a single father would receive in the same situation. These benefits extend beyond financial incentives, and include community support, outreach programs and M-for-M programs, etc. Yes, there are far less single fathers than single mothers, but the suicide rate among young males is so high, and one of the reasons I felt motivated to ask this question is because lately I have found myself depressed (not suicidal) and I blame it on the lack of community support and outreach.

Why does society have such little compassion for single fathers, yet so much for single mothers?

I’m really interested in going to college, but really don’t think I can afford even the cheapest of schools. Are there any grants or scholarships that a teenage parent can receive. I’m 19 and had a baby when I was 16. I’m considered a single parent because we haven’t gotten married yet (I’m still with the girl that I got pregnant).

I hope someone can help me find a way to go to college.

Thanks in advance

Ryan G

Too often we as a feminized society put sole blame on fathers. Rarely do we ever take a look at single mothers and scrutinize them.

Recently, Ann Coulter brought up a good point in her new book. She stated single mothers bear most of the blame for the deteroriation of society — because most violent criminals, drug dealers, drug addicts, and prostitutes were raised by single mothers. She cites the facts that the overwhelming majority of people in prison (over 75%) were raised by single mothers

I myself was raised by a a single parent. But, my single parent was a single father. I never got in to gangs, I never used drugs, I was a fairly good student (B range), and got in to a good university. At most I drink socially and smoked for two years but quit. I work a good well-paying career dealing in graphic design, and run my own online business from home. I’ve lived on my own since the age of 18.

Had I been raised by a single mother, it may have turned out a different story. I might’ve ended up on drugs on breaking in to cars and other illegal, immoral ways of making money.

And the fact is, statistics show that there is little difference between the incarceration rates of people raised by single fathers and the incarceration rates of people raised by both parents. However, there is a stark contrast between prisoners raised by both parents and prisoners raised by a single mother. An overwhelmingly higher percentage of "troubled youth" are raised by single mothers.

Are single fathers better parents than single mothers?
Wendy G: Yes, that was my stepmother whom I lived with for a few years. Your point?
Wendy G: Yes my sisters turned out okay. One is a nurse and another just finished up school. I don’t really go out of my way to bother talking to them though. My dad usually didn’t believe me, or ignored it and told me not to worry about it when I finally mustered up the courage to inform him. Thanks.

If I was a single father, I wouldn’t want my kids to associate with the criminal, barbarian offspring of single mothers. Do you think if we allowed by law segregation of daycare centers along these lines they would become more popular, thus more affordable and better staffed?

I am involved with a single father of two children. He would like to go back to school, but hasn’t been able to find any scholarships for single fathers. I’ve searched too, and haven’t had any luck with finding anything. Has anyone else had any luck looking online?